I've found that the only real distinction between friend and boyfriend is the attraction factor.A boyfriend is actually a friend that you'd like to get kinky with as soon as possible.I also have friends who don't share their different friend circles, for fear of social miscegenation.Also, everyone has had or been a "bad friend" at some point in their lives, right?
If I'm attracted to a guy, then I really can't befriend him.Let's act like we're "just friends" even though we're really dating.This all sorta misses Eric Berne's point that "the essence of friendship is that there is no active Parental ego state under ordinary conditions.(One sees this "friends first" business all the time as the headline in women's personals ads on singles sites.) I mean, who's gonna actually be friends with someone, much less court them, when the first thing they do is start dictating the terms of the relationship?(A: the weasel — the guy with no other options who hangs around under false pretenses hoping to eventually be rewarded for playing by the rules.) I think it's all this disingenuousness -- maybe it's simple confusion, maybe it's just a bad euphemism or a cop-out -- which leads to "friends first" not working so well.