I have heard that this is one reason some families leave the Old Order and join the N. On the contrary, a lot of New Order have pretty high standards for dating.Barbara Dee, what I had tried to say earlier today is that this has been the custom for many years so there is most likely little if any wondering going on because the parents dated the same way, and know exactly what is going on. (I wish I could meet you, but my driving is limited because of health issues.Dee Quick question: Have you ever heard of bed courtship? It's a controversial subject among Amish and former Amish. Some Amish disagree with it, some disagree in word only. (But this kind has no board down the middle like the bundling of old.) Rebecca I never heard of it, so I decided to look it up. The bundling of early America used a board...somehow, the Amish lost that part of the tradition. It seems to go against all that the Amish would consider moral. I think Le Roy is right: tradition wins out over common sense and moral standards. Naomi Dee, the reason the parents don't do anything about it is, they are losing their children to the world, so if they get pregnant then they have them because they make them get married. I heard of a case where a girl got pregnant on her first date ever and had to get married.
Finally, I went to the former Amish and asked them.Barbara, it is SO hard to think about allowing this, especially when the parents know what could happen. Or is it another one of these "Because we've always done it that way" things? Blows the popular conception of (some) Amish communities out of the water, doesn't it?Imagine the social workers who would immediately get involved if we discovered this going on in some English suburb! For some reason, many things within in the Amish communities that would raise eyebrows, and get a social worker knocking on your door outside of the Amish, are tolerated, or maybe just well-hidden.Barbara Unfortunately they are expected to date this way but refrain from sex..you imagine most mothers and fathers never talk about sex with their daughters and sons! Is there a weekend day so my hubby could help drive?So it is discovered by experimentation, not to mention these kids are 16-17 when they start & most of the time alcohol has been consumed prior to the date or sleeping together occurring. ) You're right: with no education, the young people are set up for mistakes in situations like this.